Excerpt from Chapter One…
To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (NKJV)
What is this desire for her husband that God talks about here? It is a desire for a godly marriage borne of God and placed deep within the heart of every woman.
The word “desire” in Genesis 3:16 is translated from the Hebrew word tesh-oo-kaw’ which, in the original sense, means to stretch out after. And while we are stretching out after our husbands, they are doing what God has placed in their hearts to do: rule over us. The Hebrew word Mashal (pronounced maw-shal’ ) is translated “rule” in Genesis 3:16 and means “to rule, have dominion, reign.”
When I first saw the definition of desire from the Hebrew perspective, a lot of things suddenly made sense to me. As a young bride, I naively wanted to love and please my husband completely.
In spite of knowing that he loved me, I felt like I could never quite make him happy. Oh, there were moments, even days, of what could be called happy; but for the most part, I strived to make him happy. Like stretching for something too high in the cupboard and being unable to grasp it, I just kept stretching, even jumping at times, hoping to reach what I wanted. My heart felt bruised, and at times, broken.
Like many other wives, I have been wounded and defeated in my pursuit of my husband. My wounding was not necessarily due to anything he did wrong. I just misplaced my efforts in seeking his approval instead of God’s. Does this ring any bells with you?
(Excerpt from Chapter One of Your Desire Shall be for Your Husband – all rights reserved by author)